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In Through the Out Time

Today is post number one thousand, four hundred, and in another hundred I’ll be up to fifteen hundred.  For this event today, I’ve decided to answer another reader’s question, and this is from Joanne Brunetti, another of my buddies in Hodgepodge Crochet on Facebook.  But this isn’t a writing question:  it’s a personal one–some might say an extremely personal one.  And the question is . . .


Was there a specific event that led to you making the decision to go ahead and live your true life?


That’s certainly an interesting question.  And I answered it, but not in writing.  I decided that it was just too much to write down, so I recorded a video to talk about the moment when–

Well, you’ll have to watch yourself.  It’ll take about twenty minutes, and I promise it won’t bore you.  So enjoy.

30 thoughts on “In Through the Out Time

  1. It never ceases to amaze me how strangers can walk into our lives “just” as we need them, giving us the strength and encouragement we hadn’t realized until that moment we need so desperately – bless Tanya for walking into your life when she did – and bless you! 🙂

  2. You are such a brave person, not only in opening yourself up to us but for being able to express who you really are. Thank you for enlightening me. You are truly blessed to have discovered a true friend in your life to accept you for who you are and to feel the strength and courage, with her support, to be who you want to be.

  3. Oh Cassidy, you brave wonderful woman you! I am crying now after watching your video and so happy you had Tanya and the courage to tell her in that defining moment. Thank you for being a model of what it is to be your genuine self. Thank you for showing us YOU in this video and in every day that we come to visit you!

  4. Thank you for sharing that wonderful part of your story. You have many readers here, and many friends who hold you dear, having gotten to know you through your videos and your fiction. You’re an amazing woman, Cassidy, and I’m honored to know you.

  5. Cassidy, I really enjoyed listening to your video. I cried and laughed right along with you. Thank God for Tayna because she helped to create the person who is Cassidy, You are an amazing person and through your honesty and openness, you have helped hundreds, (if not thousands) of people to understand and embrace the transgender community. I truly believe that everything happens in its own good time and that people are sent to us at certain times in our life to help with that. I have had people in my life like that and I will never forget them.

    Recently, I was pondering whether it would be appropriate to ask you at what point in your life did you feel that you were a woman trapped in a man’s body. Did you know from a young age that something wasn’t right, or did you keep suppressing the feelings because you were afraid of how people would react? I was mildly surprised to find out you had been married, but I suppose that’s not unusual.

    The reason I ask is because I recently watched a video about a little boy that knew from very early on that he wanted to be a girl and would dress in girl’s clothes every chance he got, wear makeup, play with dolls, etc. At first his family was reluctant to have anyone find out, but as he got older, thankfully they realized that this was who he was and because he was their son and they loved him, they supported him in his choice. It was a fairy tale ending, which I’m sure isn’t always the case. My point is, that this little boy wasn’t much older than a toddler when he started displaying female tendencies and he went with it right from the start. He was fortunate that he had understanding, supportive parents and I praise them for that. Even though you hid your true identity for 50 years, at what age did you first realize you were a woman? If I may be so bold to ask.

    • I don’t mind answering, Barbara. I was about 5 or 6 when I knew there was something different about me. A big part of it was the feeling I should be more like my sister, and that I didn’t like this whole “being a boy” thing. However, that was 1962-63, and you just didn’t “come out” then. By the time I was 10 I knew for sure; I’d read about “transexuality” (as it was called then) in a book my mother had and realized that was me.

      So, like a lot of other transkids, I knew before I was a teen that I should have been a girl.

  6. I had to wait until I had some quiet time to myself to watch this, but I’ve been itching to. And, as promised, it was anything but boring! It reminded me of when my very good friend came out to me. He told me about how he wanted to take me to dinner that night because there was something very important he had to tell me. I could tell he was nervous, and he finally took a deep breath and said,”Well, what I really need to tell you is that I’m gay.” I told him, “Yeah, I know.” I just kept looking at him waiting for the big news he had to tell me, and it took a few moments before I realized that was it. He said,”No, I really am.” and I told him “Yeah, I really know.” You could literally see the relief wash over his face when he realized that I really did know, and that it didn’t matter to me at all. People are just people to me, and I don’t understand viewing the world in any other light. I am so happy to hear how you met your first friend who accepted you as you are, and I hope that anyone else out there living a similar journey is lucky enough to find theirs.

  7. Oh how nice is this? Just finished watching the video … and once more … wishing you the happiest of life from this point out! 🙂

    (Hope all is going well at work too. And laughing that you and I both “do” computers.)

  8. Hi Cassidy, just wondering why your posts don’t come up in my email even though I am following you. It’s not just you but several other of my favourite bloggers. I just thought you were taking a bit of a writing break (which certainly doesn’t seem ‘you’) Anyway, once again, sorry to have lost touch. Juliexxx

  9. Cassidy, you have a heart of pure gold. I hope you know that. And you are courageous to beat the band!

  10. I just finished the end of your video. My mantra… “Nobody cries alone in my presence.” ((((((((((HUGS))))))))))

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